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Marriage Matters (part 2) - Speak the Truth in Love

September 27

Purpose Matters

Ephesians 4:14-16

14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

Reflection Questions

Healthy marriages communicate in healthy ways. The foundation for healthy communication is speaking the truth in love.


(If you are single, remember, this principle is vital to all healthy relationships.)


1) Ed identified two situations that challenge us in trying to speak the truth in love.

  • When we are hurt/disappointed/frustrated
  • When we have objective criticism of our spouse
  • Which is the bigger challenge in our marriage? (If single, which is the bigger challenge for you?)


2) Am I more likely to use the truth as a club or to leave it unsaid?


3) Is it harder for me to be aware of my hurt/frustration/disappointment or to honestly admit to it?


4) Identify any behavior patterns you have fallen into to avoid conflict.


5) Ask your spouse (or a friend) if they think you are generally receptive or unreceptive to their criticism of you.


6) Ask yourself prayerfully: Do I have a teachable spirit? Is my personal goal truly to become more and more like Christ? Then ask your mate (friend) how you can help make it easier for them to speak the truth in love to you.


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