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Marriage Matters (part 1) - Purpose

September 20

Purpose Matters

Ephesians 5:21-33

Instructions for Christian Households

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Reflection Questions

If you’re not married:

  • Try to examine what shadow purposes you’ve been pursuing in your dating life or in how you have thought about marriage.
  • For some additional work, find a friend (a friend, not someone you might be interested in) and ask them to have a conversation with you about this. It will help you gain even more perspective.

If you are married:

  • We have an exercise designed to encourage this conversation. Sometime this week, sit down together for an hour and work through the exercise.
  • Sometime this week, spend some time together in prayer about your marriage. Ask God to clarify your purpose and deepen your commitment to it. “I don’t know how to do that.” Get over yourself. Put your big boy pants on and do it.

Exercise for Couples

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